Sunday, April 15, 2012

How To Get Over An Ex In 6 Easy Steps

By R G Kennedy
Knowing how to get over an ex can be the difference between a few days of pain or a few years of drawn out suffering. Hurt ego, the effect on your self-confidence and the anger that you may have for that person are some factors which are involved in the process of forgetting someone who broke your heart, and this requires additional steps in order to forget that person.
As soon as a relationship has ended, a person can sometimes suffer for a long period of time caused by his hurt ego, and not the love that he had for the person that has broken his heart. This means that you'll be able to get over the person totally and still feel the pain caused by the bad emotions related to how you were rejected and dumped that will remain.
So how can I get over my ex?
Here are the steps needed to forget the person who has hurt you.
  1. Recovering your ego: Hating the person or revenge are two things that you shouldn't do when trying to heal your ego. These are not the solutions to your issue. This would only just make you turn out to be a resentful being. A better way to heal a hurt ego is by being strong and to show that person that he just lost the most valuable "thing" in his life and that is you of course. Divert all your bad feelings and anger in motivating yourself to be a better person, and eventually your ex will know your progress and realize of his loss.
  2. Boost your self-confidence: People sometimes fail to recover after a breakup because of self-esteem problems and it's not because for the love they had towards the person who broke their heart and dumped them.
  3. Discard the old memories: Remove all the things that will remind you of him such as pictures, gifts, etc. Stop listening to sad romantic music and avoid going to places that both of you used to go to.
  4. He is not the "One": There are still many potential partners out there waiting for your attention. You only knew one of them so far. The idea of the "one" is just a false belief that has been fed to you and influenced by the media.
  5. Don't think about him: It may be hard at first but you'll get used to it eventually.
  6. Don't listen to romantic, depressing and sad songs: Avoid listening to these kind of music, but instead go for the opposite types of music such as songs about coming out on top over adversity and about being strong. This will help programme your mind into getting over with the person who broke your heart.
Hi, my name is R.G.Kennedy, the founder of RelationshipPyshcology.com.
If you'd like more help on this issue, visit my article on how to get over your ex by avoiding the common pitfall of indulging in regret about what happened.
In addition, if it's a guy you're trying to get over, follow this 4 point plan on how to get over an ex boyfriend. These 4 points are guaranteed to make you feel better in a short space of time.
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Better Work Work Balance and How It Improves Your Relationships

By Chris J Walker
A lot of people don't know about the benefits of sustainable effort.
The main benefit being - Not burning out mid week.
The vast majority of us get to Thursday and start gulping sugar and coffee just to survive...
Maintaining a healthy week is vital. Hints for it come from sport...
1. Warm up for the week (Don't make Sunday a slothful day and expect to hit the ground running on Monday)
2. Any thoughts of mid week sprints, late night shifts or heavy partying needs to be compensated for with recovery soon after, not at the end of the week... (ie sleeping in Saturday is just bad management - unless it's for romantic reasons)
3. Food, hydration and stamina play a massive role in sustainable energy for the week.
Whenever I go to social events I see the struggling work people. Those who are partying hard, drinking heavy, releasing tension but killing themselves in the process. Sometimes they're the people who complain most about the "race".. their boss, the company or stress but really, their energy gets blown on Friday mindset and Saturday Night "let your hair down".. who pays?
The Relationship pays
Work life balance is a very poor way of self management. In this old model a person balances their work with their life.
Life is not meant to balance work.
If we can balance work with work, and not get so far out of balance we'll come home happier.
A partner doesn't sign up to play nurse-maid, or daddy to a burned out exec. That's unromantic and disrespectful
Many people don't stand up for themselves so, disrespect and unromantic behaviour causes them resentment, no matter how lovingly accepting they are. I have seen people get ill from resentment.
When it comes to work life balance people do crazy things... because it's so lumpy they have too much work stress to balance in too short a period of time so they have affairs, drink heavy, and even join spiritual groups and become anti establishment.
This is all caused by poor work work balance.
When you hear someone say, "oh, I'm so looking forward to the weekend" it ultimately means, their partner, boyfriend or girlfriend is going to become part of their balancing equation. Is that fair?
We know that expectations block love, so, when a person starts dumping the quality of the present moment, and looking forward to the evening, weekend, or Christmas holidays, basically they're saying, "I'm out of balance and sprinting to the finish"... they're also saying "I know I'm in an unsustainable, low quality work productivity mode, but that's ok, I'll survive till.... "
If their partner has any self respect at all they'll reject a burned out, exhausted, demanding individual who comes to the weekend looking to "take a break" it's just not good enough. Bad self management is not justifiable and affects the children, pets, partner and friends.
Many people, who are out of balance and sprinting for the finish, use food, substance, alcohol, drugs, sex, spirituality and greed to get them through the week, year, day... the long term cost of that behavior is extreme.
Chris Walker http://www.chriswalker.com.au is a visionary business consultant and of the world's leading facilitators of Personal/Professional Development. Author, consultant and professional speaker, his considered a leader in the field of human potential and lifestyles for success. His VIP and Mastery Programs have been attended by thousands of individuals around the world seeking tools to live life and manage their careers to their fullest potential. http://www.innerwealth.com
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